Your mood, mind it

Posted: October 10, 2014 in Uncategorized

moodI saw a friend’s status in skype ‘in the mood’. He means you can call him, he is in the mood to talk, that is why he is online. That’s it, you need a mood to act. Procrastination happens because you are not in a mood.
Shall we go for a movie ? Not today, I am not in a mood. People going to meet their bosses, asks his secretary, “How is the mood”. She will tell them, not good. In that case shall come later and they leave.
Entire day, this word mood pops up in almost everybody’s mind some time or the other. And not many are aware of it. For every positive action you need the right mood,that is what it means.
If things are not happening, why not ? You have the talent, skill, attitude, right emotions, health to perform, yet you are stuck, it is the mood and it is not right. Think about the variations in your mood during the day. If you are not feeling like doing something you want or have to do, check your mood. Change your mood, make it right for the job in hand.
Depression is a mood, so is anxiety. Both of them affect our performance. Being calm or a desire for action can help us move forward.
For me there are no problems, only situations to deal with. I am not able to convince others to have that view point. They say life is full of problems, just shut up.
Your mood can be low if you have a problem. All your problems can fall under one of these categories and they are health, finance, job and relationship. Please tell me another category which I may be missing, may be security. If you can categorize all your problems, you will start feeling light and your mood will improve.
A simple cold can affect your mood, so can a shortage of money, a wrong job and an affected relationship.
What can change the mood ? Once you become aware of your mood, from a walk to dance, sing, a book, call a friend , music, a beautiful scene outside your window, a sunset, meditation, help to someone, breathing exercise, anything that works for you, can uplift your mood.
Just stand up, straighten yourself, hold your chin up and lift your hands above your head. There you are, there is a change in your mood. Go, do, what you wanted to.
However, taking the help of cola, cigarettes, drugs, drinks, caffeine are just short term energy provider and a long term disaster.
Words like magnificent, glorious can uplift your mood and serene, tranquil can change into a calm mood.
Mood may sound insignificant, try the exercise of being aware of your mood for just one day, and do things that can uplift it and experience the transformation.
Get into your car, roll up the windows, shut the world out, mute the music, sit quietly, close your eyes to the silence and a calmness settles inside you. I love this.
If the mood is not changing for the better, don’t worry, befriend it, it will leave on its own.

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What problem, no problem

Posted: September 14, 2014 in Uncategorized

I could hear the ticket collector’s loud voice and his laughter.. He seems to be finding great joy in his work, for many, a very monotonous job. What is he doing, I have a problem here with my seat and at this rate he will not reach me tonight. I walked up to him and said ‘I have a problem….’, before I could complete he guffawed, ha ha… don’t call it a prablem saar, only aappartunities..’ I said, you can call it what you want, there is a lady sleeping in the berth allotted to me, number 60 and I am travelling to Bangalore. Everybody around laughed and my anxiety simply melted away.
He came to my seat, bend down and exchanged some whispers with the lady, turned towards me and said ‘Saar, you are young and strong, you can easily occupy the upper berth, the lady is not well’. I was holding a senior citizen concessional ticket and with joint pains and a boosted spirit, I went up with silent oohs, aahs and ouches.
This joally man converted a problematic (my perspective) situation to an opportunity to serve a lady who needed help.
Give it a thought, what is a so called problem ? As long as life is there, there is a solution to every situation, quite often many. Once there is a solution, it is no more a problem. The end situation in life is death. Once we die, there goes the problem, what ever.
A manager walked into my room. “Sir, I have problem with my mother in law’. By the way, the manager is a female.
“please sit and what is the problem?”
“she gets very angry when I return home, late”
“why do you return home late”
“I stay back in the office, an extra hour or two, to meet our schedule”
“Why cant you complete the job in time, after all you are the one who is scheduling it”
“Still, sir, sometimes, it happens”
“Have you told your mother in law the reason for the late coming”
“yes, she says she does not care, be home early”
“Are you ok to stop working”
“no, Sir”
“why”
“ I need the money, after all I have my husband’s mother, father and college going sister at home and single member salary will not suffice”
“Tell your mother in law, you will have to give up the job”
“She says you can leave the job, no coming late, she cannot tolerate me coming home late”
“In that case you leave the job and please your mother in law”
“No. sir”
“Go home and tell your MIL that I have asked you to stop coming to office from next week, that is from the first and you stay back home tomorrow and tell her you have decided to leave with immediate effect. Buy something nice for her and gift it from me and tell her I lectured you about the importance of giving priority to look after old people.”
The mother in law was touched by the gift and my concern for her, what worked was her non acceptance of being bracketed into the old age group. She came to the office the next day with her daughter in law and I said ‘wow, she is your mother in law, she looks younger than you”.
The daughter in law continues to work till date, while I have moved out.
The treatment will vary from mother in law to mother in law.
There are no problems, only situations to deal with. Accept the reality as it is, stop whinnng, do not resist. All our stresses are the result of resistance to reality. Respond, not react to a situation, take action. You cannot undo anything in life, you can only redo.

Life is beautiful

Posted: August 11, 2014 in Uncategorized

I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.

Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.

Why has life become complicated now?

Stop analyzing life.. It makes it complicated. Just live it.

Why are we then constantly unhappy?

Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.

Why do good people always suffer?

Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer.
With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.

You mean to say such experience is useful?
Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…

If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.

Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?

Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

What surprises you about people?

When they suffer they ask, “why me?” When they prosper, they never ask “Why me?”

How can I get the best out of life?

Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

A rare conversation between Ramkrishna Paramahansa & Swami Vivekanand, sent by Gaurav Rajput

What is ZeNLP?
ZeNLP is a combination of Zen+NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). The word Zen evolved from “zhan” in Japanese which Chinese monks carried to Japan. “Dhyan” or “Meditation” was mispronounced by Chinese monks as “chan” which meant meditation. Zen means meditation.
Neuro relates to the brain, mind and the five senses (sight, hear, feeling, taste and smell), Linguistic to spoken and body language communication systems and programming is organisation of your thoughts, feelings, communication to achieve your desired outcomes.
ZeNLP is a school of psychological thought which believes that meditation can multiply mind power manifold to reach goals in life.


Benefit
It helps to choose the right attitude for a particular situation, better understanding of yourself and others, more effective communication and positive frame of mind. It will help you to get the best out of yourself and others in your personal and work life.
It will help to be effective and efficient in managerial decision making. ZeNLP cultivates right brain activity through meditation, creative visualisation and auto-suggestion.

The Contents:
Introduction to ZeNLP
Mental Maps
Goal Setting and Achievement
Improving Body Language Skills, Stress Management
ZeNLP meditation
Tribal Yoga
Creative Visualisation
Tribal sounds of nature for Progressive Relaxation
Tribal Binaural beat music for Trance formation
Tribal meditation (cosmic consciousness)
Swish Pattern, Decision Destroyer, Movie Music, Fast Phobia, Backward Movie

The Objectives:
The objective of this workshop is to upgrade the conceptual skills, analytical abilities and strategising skills of participants with a focus on multiplying their mind power manifold to achieve personal and organisational goals.
What workshop participants will receive:
Various meditation techniques including zen meditation, dynamic meditation and ZeNLP meditation will be demonstrated at this workshop. Participants will receive access to Mind Power Music, Scrolls for Success and training materials and instructions for internalising ZeNLP techniques learnt at workshop.

The Diet:
Participants will be served special Zen tea and Zen diet also known as High Power Diet throughout the duration of the workshop.

Benefits
• This makes them more effective and efficient in managerial decision making. ZeNLP cultivates right brain activity through meditation, creative visualisation and auto-suggestion.

About the Facult:
Murli Menon is a many faceted personality. He is a professional consultant, a trainer, a biochemist, a linguistic expert, a poet, a story writer and much much more. What is amazing is that he has excelled in all these fields and has been recognised nationally and internationally. Murli has had an exceptional academic career which spans from graduation in biochemistry to MBA in Marketing to presently pursuing advanced doctoral research on the effects on Zen Meditation on the unconscious mind. Murli is the recepient of several international awards and is listed in “International Who’s Who of Intellectuals” by International Biographical Institute, Cambridge. Murli is also the only Asian to become a certified member of “We Care” Coalition of U.S.A.. Murli is the recepient of “International Award for Distinguished Leadership” by American Biograhical Institute, U.S.A.
Murli is the President of phenoMenon consultants incorporated and is a certified ZeNLP trainer to top national and Multinational corporations. PhenoMenon consultants is the one and only consultancy in South East Asia who offer MIND POWER development workshops for senior managers based on Indian, Buddhist, Zen and Tibetian scriptures. phenoMenon consultants inc conducts week-long workshops on MIND POWER development for senior Management, Board of Directors and CEO’s. These workshops are result oriented with a focus on Goal Setting and Achievement using Creative Visualisation, Dynamic Meditation and ancient Vedic, Egyptian, Mayan and Aztec MIND POWER development ceremonies. More than 2500 managers have attended Murli’s SQ (Spiritual Quotient ) enhancement workshops in the last six years. Murli met with a serious accident in January’1995 which paralysed the left side of his body.
Murli successfully recovered from paralysis by combining Zen meditation with Neurolinguistic Programming.

Photo: A cool workshop for performing well under pressure, work and personal life balance using Zen and NLP (Neurolinguistic programming) methodology<br />
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 Murli successfully recovered from paralysis by combining Zen meditation with Neurolinguistic Programming.</strong></p>
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Mind your thoughts

Posted: June 16, 2014 in Uncategorized

We access information mainly through our three senses: see (visual), hear (auditory) and feel (kinesthetic). The different ways that we represent or store information in our mind are called representational systems. We use all of the representational systems and often have a preferred system. When learning something new, some of us may prefer to see it performed, others like to hear how to do it and others choose to get a feel of it.

nlp-senses  The Visual or seeing sense;

“The idea looks good”

The Auditory or hearing sense;

“The idea sounds good”

 The Kinesthetic or touch and feeling sense;

“The idea feels good”

People rely on these senses to different degrees.

Some memories are stored as visual images, others more of sound images. If you subconsciously prefer the visual sense you may be drawn towards visual work, if you are sound focused then you may be fascinated more by music or language or perhaps you prefer touch and feeling, and so favour physical pursuits, such as sport or working with your hands.

The preferred system is the reason of our learning differences.  The ‘visuals’ want visual props when learning. Auditory learners need to hear information to take it in. Kinesthetic learners like to try out what they are learning through exercises and role play.

 

VISUAL WORDS – bright, clear, colorful, dim, focus, illusion, illustrate, Look, perspective, picture , see, shine, sparkling , vivid, watch.

AUDITORY WORDS – ask, audible, buzz, deaf, earful, hear, noise, pitch, rings a bell, silent, tune,

KINESTHETIC WORDS – cold, concrete, feel, get in touch with, hard, hit, handle, hothead, soft, seize, solid pressure, tickle.nlp - how does it help

People give away their preferred sense through the words they choose. If you communicate with their preferred words, they will relate to you better. It helps to build a good rapport which in turn helps to improve your relationship and communication.

This can be achieved by applying your mind to your thoughts and using the right words in your communication.

Murli Menon the ZeNLP coach and author of ‘learning through stories’ shared a few interesting researched data. In India visual and auditory, in equal proportion constitutes 70% and the rest 30% are kinesthetic. These ratios are different for different countries, Americans are predominantly visual, the French auditory and Russians kinesthetic.

Would you like to know which system is prominent in your personality? It can help you to know what influences your decision making, inter personal communication, which methods helps you to learn and so on.

Check out your preferred system of learning at http://www.tips4ceos.com/mind/map.php

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Dont take it personally

Posted: June 5, 2014 in Uncategorized

Don’t take it personally, but here is why I stopped reading your blog.

Special Treatment

Posted: March 16, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

 

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I saw this sticker on facebook and commented “I have never allowed myself to feel special and not bothered to check whether I am unwanted “.  That was a month ago.

Now, I think its worth a discussion, since everybody goes through this situation and others will have to, some time in future. Its just a matter of time. It is as certain as death

Very early in my life I realized not to fall for the special treatment. I did not have any personal experience, I saw it happening all around me and I learnt.

You can see this in every walk of life. The treatment is not for YOU.

You walk into a bank and tell them you want to start an account and deposit some money.  The manager along with the entire staff will hover around you carrying you off your feet. Here, let us fill the form for you, you need just sign here , here and here. Thank you, I will fill them. No Sir, you are special. Coffee, tea or something cold ?

The elections are round the corner. It is time to visit the huts, hug the grannies and pull the cheeks of the month old babies, have tea with them, at least pretend a sip. I am your servant, shall take care of all your problems -water, house, road, rice, brinjals, just vote for me.

Its appraisal time, treat the boss time, leave it to me , Sir, you relax, this is a gift for you, got it from Singapore, I felt you are the one who deserves it.

The official, whose signature has power to sanction, remove obstacles or holds an important title  is a VIP and made to feel like one.

When the title gets prefixed with an ex- or retired, the mask falls off and  the reality dawns.

Meanwhile there are people who basks in the glory of being a relative of a VIP and misuses the position as long as the uncle is in power and then a day comes when the power fails. What a fall…

How much the person gives me or his potential to give is what  influences my admiration, respect and behavior  towards someone, neither the giver nor the receiver realizes this. They all get carried away by the moment.

Don’t get carried away, think why , is it me or my position because the dump, later can be very hurtful.

I remember an Ad where Yuvaraj Singh says as long as your bat talks, you are there. It shows it’s the cricketer and not Yuvi that is special. I forget the product, get the message.

The other day, I visited my Aunt, a renowned professor,  whose house is located in a very envious location in  town and asked her you must be having lots of visitors stopping by ? As a matter of fact she replied causally, oh ya, lots of them…not these days,not after my retirement.

A guy orders for tea and pays a large tip on his way out. The next time when he comes with his friend for lunch to the restaurant, he gets a huge welcome and the waiters  vied with each other to serve him. After  the lunch he drops a coin as tip to the shock of the waiters. Sir , last time…

Yes, last time I tipped for this time and this time it is for  last time.

 

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